It's that wonderful time of year when anything can happen, a chance to begin again and try to be different. We boldly resolve that this year we will lose weight. This year we will find that right person. This year we will land that fabulous job. This year we will be happy.
I have been studying happiness for the last five years. Watching the videos. Listening to the experts. Reading the books. How could I pass up Sonia Lyubomirsky’s new book, The Myths of Happiness? Of course I couldn’t.
And I am happy to report that reading The Myths of Happiness was four hours happily spent.
Lyubomirsky focuses on the truth of two quotes:
Pasteur reminds us, “Chance favors the prepared mind,” and
Socrates notes, “He who is not contented with what he has,
Would not be contented with what he would like to have.”
Chapter by chapter, Lyubomirsky examines all the myths of happiness we Americans hide in our hearts---all the I’ll Be Happy When’s and all the I Can’t Be Happy If’s---and explodes them, using a lovely combination of scientific research and case studies.
Turns out, we are much more resilient than we think we are. It's important to know that we will keep walking through great good fortune with scarcely more than a few months’ rise in happiness. And it's eyeopening to learn that we will keep walking through great traumas with scarcely more than a few months’ dip in happiness.
Interesting. Unexpected. Good to know.
For more good books on happiness, I recommend:
Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman
Happiness: Lessons from a New Science by Richard Leyman
Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project and Happier at Home
The Dalai Lama’s The Art of Happiness
Sonja Lyubomirsky’s earlier book, The How of Happiness.
For more info, take a look at a Today Show piece with Lyubomirsky and Gretchen Rubin:
‘The Myths of Happiness’: Do you know where to find it?
Here's the tour schedule:
Wednesday, January 23rd: Positively Present
Thursday, January 24th: Build Your Soul Purpose
Monday, January 28th: Everyone Needs Therapy
Tuesday, January 29th: readerbuzz
Thursday, January 31st: Patricia’s Wisdom
Monday, February 4th: Balance In Me
Tuesday, February 5th: evenminds
Tuesday, February 5th: Midwife For Your Life
Wednesday, February 6th: A Daring Adventure
Friday, February 8th: The Watered Soul